There is more than one thing that can make me do a violent face palm. One thing that gets me going almost without fail, though, is when I hear myself or my kiddos making excuses about something, and all our excuses have everything to do with other people doing or not doing something. None of the problem is our choices and decisions, you know. Fault lies totally at the door of someone else! [face palm]
Our default setting is to point everywhere but back at ourselves. We clearly see the bad habits of those around us, but we conveniently fail to notice our own hang-ups, much less do the hard work of changing them.
Being a mom of 4 beautiful little people who unfortunately let me hear on repeat the things they hear around here has made me more aware of the words coming out of my mouth. Faulty reasoning, excuses, bad attitudes…they sound TERRIBLE on little people. I don’t know why they don’t sound so awful on me…
When I read this article some time ago, it hit me between the eyes how often our problem is just that-our problem. Not another person’s-our own.
Not every issue addressed in this article was something I identified with, but the common thread of each issue is personal responsibility, and I did identify with that.
I manage my own happiness. It starts and ends with me.
Not all the circumstances of my life are under my control, but the way I respond is.
Here’s the link to the article I read-22 Habits of Unhappy People – InfoBarrel.
I hope it encourages you as it did me!